Can you forgive and forget?

Someone treads on your foot. You:

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Tread on their foot 'accidently'
Point out to them what they have done
Move away from them
Force a smile if they say sorry

A year after you have broken up you receive a wedding invitation from your ex. You:

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Think he/she has only sent it to torture you
Think he/she is just rubbing your nose in it
Are happy for him/her
Remind yourself that what makes one person sad might make another person happy

You are on an interview panel and the next candidate turns out to be your sworn enemy from school. You:

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Make sure they have the worst interview of their life
Welcome them with an amused smile
Try to put them at their ease despite the past
Just enjoy seeing them go white as a sheet

You bump into an old friend whom you haven’t heard from for five years. You:

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Would rather die than be back in touch
Ask him/her why they haven’t been in touch
Are just pleased that you have found each other again
Are surprised it’s been five years — you hadn’t really noticed

Your partner has just opened a letter that was addressed to you. What’s your response?

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‘I don’t know if I can trust you again after this’
‘Your post is my post’
‘I know it’s only a letter, but still…’
‘Do you want to go through my pockets while you’re at it?’

Your brother, who is unemployed, criticises you for the way you spend your money. You:

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Feel like you might explode with anger
Tell him kindly, but firmly, to mind his own business
Feel bad for him
Understand why he might be jealous

The hardest thing about having to decide whether to forgive someone is:

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Accepting that you will no longer be able to hold a grudge
Starting afresh
That someone else’s fate is in your hands
Avoiding showing that person that you were angry

Someone who hurt you in the past comes to ask you to forgive them. How do you feel?

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Angry
You understand
Compassionate towards them
Resentful

You learn of the accidental death of a teacher you used to hate. What’s your reaction?

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You are pleased
You feel sorry for the people in heaven who will have to put up with him/her
You feel sad just the same
So there IS justice in the world!

What would you like to say to your worst enemy?

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I hope that you experience the same pain that you’ve caused me
I won’t let you hurt me any more
I know deep down that there is more to you than this
If you only knew how much I hate you

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Personality Test

Someone treads on your foot. You:

A year after you have broken up you receive a wedding invitation from your ex. You:

You are on an interview panel and the next candidate turns out to be your sworn enemy from school. You:

You bump into an old friend whom you haven’t heard from for five years. You:

Your partner has just opened a letter that was addressed to you. What’s your response?

Your brother, who is unemployed, criticises you for the way you spend your money. You:

The hardest thing about having to decide whether to forgive someone is:

Someone who hurt you in the past comes to ask you to forgive them. How do you feel?

You learn of the accidental death of a teacher you used to hate. What’s your reaction?

What would you like to say to your worst enemy?