Test: What stops you taking your needs seriously?

If you’re never at the top of your agenda, take our test to identify what’s holding you back from prioritising yourself — plus, find what steps you can take to start putting yourself first.

You find it hardest to say no when

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It's something you could do well
People might be disappointed
You'd be letting someone down
No one else will do it

You're most likely to abandon your plans when

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Someone else has a crisis
You feel the need to finish something 'more important'
Someone suggests doing something else
You convince yourself they weren't that important anyway

When you do prioritise yourself, you wonder whether

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You're prioritising the wrong things
You won't get through your to-do list
You're missing out on something more important
You'll come across as selfish

People are most likely to comment on how

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Well you do
Much you care
Little you do
Much you do

If a friend gifted you a spa day, you'd think

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It's lovely, but far too generous
Will I actually enjoy this?
Why do they think I have time for this?
Lots of people need this more than me

When you plan your week ahead you tend to

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Be unrealistic about what you can get done
Underestimate how much time you'll need for each task
Fit it around other people's schedules
Find it hard to know what you'll feel like doing

You find it easier to prioritise yourself when

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You're feeling motivated and inspired
No-one will know about it
It helps you be more productive
Someone has told you to do it

Your critical voice is most likely to say

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Are you sure that's good enough?
What will people think?
You never stick at anything
Other people do much more

You admire people who seem to

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Glow from the inside out
Know what really matters
Be comfortable with who they are
Be loved by everyone

Deep down, you know a more balanced life

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Is in your hands
Isn't selfish
Will be a better life
Is long overdue

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If you’re never at the top of your agenda, take our test to identify what’s holding you back from prioritising yourself — plus, find what steps you can take to start putting yourself first.

Personality Test

You find it hardest to say no when

You're most likely to abandon your plans when

When you do prioritise yourself, you wonder whether

People are most likely to comment on how

If a friend gifted you a spa day, you'd think

When you plan your week ahead you tend to

You find it easier to prioritise yourself when

Your critical voice is most likely to say

You admire people who seem to

Deep down, you know a more balanced life