Do you know how to say no?

Saying ‘no’ means you are:

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Giving in
Choosing
Saying what you mean

If you say ‘yes’ to someone and therefore can’t do something that you'd been looking forward to, you feel:

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Disappointed, but that's all
Very frustrated
Very angry

You are looking after an elderly member of your family and you do everything they might want out of respect for:

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Their age
What you owe them
Yourself

Your mum invites you to spend Christmas with her every year but you’d rather do something different this time. Saying no would:

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Make you feel guilty
Be liberating
Boost your self-esteem

You have just broken up with someone but they say they still love you and want to stay together. You:

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Allow yourself to be convinced — you never know
Will always wonder if it was the right thing to do but you don't go back on your decision
Still decide not to see them again

You lent money to a friend, saying that it was the last time, but they ask to borrow some again. You:

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Lend them the money but say it's the last time
Lend them a quarter of what they’ve asked for
Say no categorically and try hard not to get angry with them

You think you get on well with everyone you know, except for two or three people — just like everyone. Why is this?

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Self-preservation
You like to keep other people happy
Your strength of character

In your job what kind of manager would you prefer to have? Someone who:

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Is polite and charming
Hasn't got a great personality but who is really good at their job
Is authoritative but fair

You hate travelling but your friends are offering to take you away for a week to the Maldives for your birthday, so you:

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Make them happy by saying you'll go
Pack your bags, flattered by such a lovely present
Refuse to go — their idea doesn't match your tastes

If you won £1 million on ‘Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?’ what would the money bring you?

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The respect of your family
A sense of calm
Power over other people

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Personality Test

Saying ‘no’ means you are:

If you say ‘yes’ to someone and therefore can’t do something that you'd been looking forward to, you feel:

You are looking after an elderly member of your family and you do everything they might want out of respect for:

Your mum invites you to spend Christmas with her every year but you’d rather do something different this time. Saying no would:

You have just broken up with someone but they say they still love you and want to stay together. You:

You lent money to a friend, saying that it was the last time, but they ask to borrow some again. You:

You think you get on well with everyone you know, except for two or three people — just like everyone. Why is this?

In your job what kind of manager would you prefer to have? Someone who:

You hate travelling but your friends are offering to take you away for a week to the Maldives for your birthday, so you:

If you won £1 million on ‘Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?’ what would the money bring you?