How has your relationship with your father shaped who you are?

Your mother would say of your father:

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Do as your father says
He’s good for nothing
While he’s out gallivanting…
If you really knew your father…
What a good man

You most often turned to your father for:

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Instruction
An example of how not to live
Good fun
Inspiration
An arm around your shoulder

When planning your wedding you think:

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I hope my father will approve
I hope he doesn’t embarrass me
He’ll make an outrageous speech
Who will give me away?
I dreamed of the day he would walk me down the aisle

At worst, your father was:

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Controlling
Weak
Irresponsible
Absent
Coddling

Growing up, you saw your father as:

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Lord and master
Disappointing
An adventurer
An ideal
Warm and caring

You most often feel towards your father:

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Respect
Disgrace
Envy
Longing
Love

Having friends over to play made you feel:

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Anxious for fear that your father would be irritated
Nervous they might see the family’s dirty laundry
Worried that you would cause more burden to your mother
Shy because you were more comfortable on your own
Proud to share your home

As a child, your relationship with your father was:

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Formal
Secret
Intense
Remote
Comforting

You were most often praised for:

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Doing as you were told
Keeping up appearances
Your courage
Your imagination
Just about everything you did

What you learned most from your father is that:

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It’s a man’s world
Men can’t be trusted
Boys will be boys
Men are a mystery
The good will win in the end

To your father, the home in which you grew up was:

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His castle
His domain
His harbour
A shrine
Where the heart is

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Personality Test

Your mother would say of your father:

You most often turned to your father for:

When planning your wedding you think:

At worst, your father was:

Growing up, you saw your father as:

You most often feel towards your father:

Having friends over to play made you feel:

As a child, your relationship with your father was:

You were most often praised for:

What you learned most from your father is that:

To your father, the home in which you grew up was: